5 ways to remember a loved one at Christmas

5 ways to remember a loved one at Christmas

Christmas is a time of family, love and sharing special moments - and it’s precisely at this time of year when we tend to really feel the loss of our loved ones. Whether it’s that empty spot at the table or a family tradition that just doesn’t feel right anymore, our lady funeral directors know that the holiday season often brings to the surface many bittersweet memories of those we’ve had to say goodbye to.

Whether you’ve recently experienced the death of a friend or family member, or have been coping with a loss for several years, finding a way to remember a loved one at Christmas is a powerful way to process your grief. It certainly doesn’t take away your loss, but it does help to honour them in a positive way. Here are five of our favourite ways you can remember them over the holidays.

 

5 ways to remember a loved one at Christmas

 

1. Create a new charitable Christmas tradition in their name

Get the whole family involved in creating a new Christmas tradition to commemorate those who have passed. If your loved one had a favourite cause or charity they were passionate about, why not commit to spending the afternoon on Christmas Eve volunteering to help others in their memory? The act of giving to others can be a remarkable healer for our own pain. What better way to remember your loved ones who have passed than undertaking a charitable act in their name?

 

2. Plant a tree in their honour

Trees are a beautiful symbol of life and the cyclical passing of time. If your loved one had a particular type of flower or tree that they loved, planting one in your garden is a lovely way to remember a loved one at Christmas time. Otherwise, we’d recommend picking one of the beautiful native trees that will flower during the holiday season, such as a Jacaranda tree, Christmas bells, or even a traditional Western Australian Christmas Tree. Every year when you see those blooms coming to life, you’ll enjoy the loving memory of your family member.

 

3. Make a remembrance wreath or ornaments for your tree

Making decorations for your home and Christmas tree is w great way to remember a loved one at Christmas. This is a fantastic way to involve the younger members of your family and help them to remember the person who has passed away. The whole family can work together to choose the flowers, branches and decorations to make a memorial wreath for your departed loved one. Or, spend an afternoon at the craft table making ornaments for your Christmas tree that signify the memory of those no longer with us. You can use laminated photos, words of memory, or simply their favourite colour - whatever makes the ornament unique to your loved one.

 

4. Celebrate their rituals

Rather than avoiding the rituals which bring back memories of the departed, make a point of celebrating them. Did your mum always have a nip of brandy after Christmas lunch? Make a special point of gathering the family and toasting to her memory over brandy. Did Dad always make a fuss of slicing and serving the Christmas ham? Make this part of your meal a special time to acknowledge and remember him. Was there a particular hymn or carol your friend loved? Play it and sing along to honour their memory. By choosing to celebrate these special moments, we feel closer and more connected to the memory of our loved ones that have passed.

 

5. A time for storytelling

There is comfort in sharing our favourite memories with those around us. Why not dedicate a certain time on Christmas day when everyone gets together to tell their favourite stories about the person who has passed? There will no doubt be laughter mixed with tears, but in the sharing of these feelings and moments you will feel a closeness with those around you, and a positive celebration of those who have departed. It’s such a nice way to remember those who have passed at Christmas, helping you feel closer to them as you all enjoy sharing the memory of them in your hearts.

 

We know that the holiday season can be a particularly difficult time for those who have lost a loved one. If you have your own special ways that you celebrate and remember a loved one during the festive season, we’d love to hear from you. It’s always nice to share the rituals that help your family through, and hopefully help others through a difficult time of year too.



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Lady Anne Funerals is here to support and assist your family through what can be a difficult time, with a ladies touch. 

We are available to discuss a range of services to support your family, including: 

  • Personalised memorial services
  • Cremation and burial services
  • Religious services catering to all faith's
  • No service, no attendance 

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Some of the families we've helped

“I just wanted to send you our sincerest thanks for everything you and your incredible team did for us in making the most perfect day, celebration and farewell of our beautiful Harper.

I have given a lot of thought to your business and the industry and I think it is perhaps the most important business for families to get it right when it comes to planning a funeral which may be sudden or may be a long time in the making. Either way, when one is faced with the unfortunate situation of needing to arrange a funeral, only then do you realise the importance of getting it right.

We experienced first hand the polar opposites the industry offers. It is not just about the cars, the booklets, the music and all the things that make up the day - its about the service, the care and most importantly it’s about the people.

From our very first conversation we could sense your genuine care to our situation and your attention to detail was obvious - this was very different to the previous conversations we had with others we had been referred to. Those other companies wanted to commence meetings with the paperwork side of things upfront which is a very confronting thing to do just days after losing your loved one - and when one of the others that I am referencing couldn’t even refernece our daughters name as our meeting started - we were horrified of how poor the service of care could be.

This is where you and your team shine. After feeling very lost in our search to secure the perfect funeral director to create the perfect day, my wife all of a sudden recalled you standing out the front of your office each morning watering the surrounding gardens to ensure a beautiful front of house. Well, I can assure you, it is not just the front of house that is beautiful - its the entire package that is beautiful.

Your manner, your direction and your expertise is evident from the get go. Nothing is too hard for you or your amazing team. The personal care made us feel like we were the only funeral you were working with at the time, and that’s exactly how it should be.

The finer detail, such as driving past our house so our daughter could go past our house one last time, then leaving the most beautiful flowers on our doorstep, to bumping into us at the Church because you were just doing your own research to make sure the day was seamless. This combined with your recommendations from every aspect as everything was very foreign to us, you were able to guide us to achieve the most beautiful farewell.

The day itself was simply perfect. Not once did we have a concern. The car was shining, your team dressed beautifully, cold water provided for us, directions for our guests, directions for us. Everyone commented on how amazing the day was and how incredibly your team were. Seamless is the only word I can use. It doesn’t stop here.

Your personal care and guidance then allowed us a more intimate farewell the following day (we are so grateful for for this recommendation and possibly would have missed this special day if you had suggested it was the best idea). Again, you and your team made us feel like you had nowhere else to be, and no one else to help. Just us. The setting was beautiful, the celebrant (that you arrange and recommend) is a delightful, your team make this day even more special than the last.

This is something we never want to go through again but there will be so many others, that like us, have no idea where to start to look for the right funeral director for their own special day. All I can say is that I hope that they appoint Lady Anne Funerals. We learnt a lot quickly and it is again a business many do not ever consider needing but without question one of the most important businesses to select the right person and the right team.

I welcome any of your future potential clients to contact me if they wish to discuss our experience with the amazing Lady Anne team. We thank you for giving our beautiful baby the most incredible farewell that was exactly how we imagined it, you just made it happen.”

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Lee Dowdall
Karen has supported my Mum and me through the most difficult week of our lives as we not only planned a funeral, but interred my Dad to his new home. I will be forever grateful to Karen for her ongoing support, guidance, kindness, empathy and friendship over the last week. Karen has now become part of our extended circle of close family friends.
Daughter of the late Sveta Dordevich
Lady Anne Funerals has the compassion, understanding and empathy that many of the larger funeral homes do not possess. My aunts funeral was dignified and classy everything she deserved. I would highly recommend Lady Anne (and have) as they go above and beyond.
Joanne Marks
I am overwhelmed with the feedback on how beautiful it all was from all who attended. You and the other ladies were wonderful, looked so elegant, and made the day so very special for all who loved Paul.
Barbara Sommerville Enright
Karen and her staff treated us with the utmost respect we could not have been in better hands during this difficult time. My mum had organised her funeral with a prepaid funeral plan which she had purchased from Karen almost ten years ago this also made this upsetting time much easier to deal with and she got all the things that she wished for.
Malcolm Ellis
On behalf of my family, I would like to thank Lady Anne Funerals for a beautiful service yesterday for my aunt Dot. All who attended commented on how lovely the service was & the professionalism of all the staff. Thanks again very much for helping making a sad day one of celebration of Dot’s life.
Judith Neville

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