When dressing for a funeral, it is important to dress in appropriate attire in relation to the family and friends. Perhaps first finding out where the service is and what kind of service you will be attending.
Today when people are planning a funeral they have so many alternatives to a traditional funeral. Funeral, Memorial, Remembrance services, any of these can be held in non traditional places. Over the years as our society has modernised, family’s often make the decision to have a funeral that wholly represents the life of their loved one; that could be a beach, a park, a club house or simply in the garden at home.
You should also take mind of the culture that the family and friends represent.
People will often be made aware by friends or family if there is a dress code, certain colour scheme etc. For instance, a certain type or colour of top, a certain colour tie – if available.
Casual dress is becoming more and more prevalent. One only needs to be aware of the group of people that will be around you at the funeral and that will be a good indicator of the attire that is acceptable. In everyday life, Jeans and T Shirts, sneakers and thongs are becoming the normal wear for a huge amount of people. Going to a funeral really is not the place for this type of wear. I have often seen large groups of people coming in very casual wear to a funeral. I wonder if they reconsider what they should have worn, when the family arrives dressed in lovely clothes, looking dignified.
If a man doesn’t own a suit, a good pair of slacks, shirt and tie is acceptable accompanied by a sports jacket if available. If you do not own any formal clothes, stick to muted colours and tone down any accessories. Either way you should dress modestly.
I think that it is much easier for a woman to dress for a funeral. A good suit, a pretty dress and a range of nice shoes. The same applies to women as to men, whatever a woman decides to wear, having taken notice of the dress code for the occasion, she can easily tone down most outfits.
I feel that every family wants to be proud and impressed by family and friends who attend their loved one’s funeral
Conservative and elegant should come to mind when deciding what to wear. Family’s will often introduce friends and family to each other, you will want them to be proud they know you, that you make a good impression for them.
I’m sure most reading this will not be connected to the Royal Family; so we don’t need to dress like Queen Elizabeth.
No matter what you decide to wear, make sure everything is clean and tidy. Put time and effort into your appearance. The family will be appreciative of you making the effort to attend; therefore you will be noticed.
Look for our advice of funeral etiquette in next blog.