When Accidents Happen: Dealing With Unexpected Loss

When Accidents Happen: Dealing With Unexpected Loss

Just last week news broke that respected and admired Australian actress Nicole Kidman unexpectedly lost her father whilst he was on vacation in Singapore. Whilst it was a tragic event to happen, it can also happen to any Australian family. How can we prepare ourselves for dealing with unexpected loss?

 

What happened?

Dr Antony Kidman had been visiting his daughter Antonia, son-in-law Craig and their six children in Singapore. Early reports stated that Dr Kidman had died after an apparent fall at the restaurant he was dining in at the time of his unexpected death but the most recent reports have confirmed that Dr Kidman suffered a heart attack after some early morning exercise.

Understandably this is an incredibly tragic event to happen to the entire Kidman family and although this was a high-profile story with lots of media coverage, accidents and unexpected deaths also affect the everyday Australian family. If this was to happen to someone we know, how do we deal with such an unexpected loss. Can we be prepared? Or do we simply need to process and accept the loss after it has happened? Below are three ways to cope when dealing with unexpected loss.

 

Gather those close to you as soon as possible

In the event of an accident, it is important for all those affected to gather with one another in order to get and give support. Depending on the nature of the accident, many close friends and family are likely to be in shock. Of course this can certainly happen in other circumstances of death but the suddenness and untimeliness of accidents strongly emphasises and makes the shock much more extreme.

 

Let the authorities work efficiently and without interference

In the sad story of the Kidman family, there needed to be multiple (and international) authorities cooperating with one another. This would not have been made easier with the amount of media attention received locally in Singapore, here in Australia and of course internationally in the US and around the globe.

For those families finding themselves in a somewhat similar situation, even without being a high-profile media story, it is best left to the authorities to conduct their relevant investigations. If the authorities aren't able to do their jobs efficiently and without interference, your family will only be left lingering in the grieving process for longer than necessary.

 

Choose a funeral home you trust

Depending on the recently lost loved one, you may or may not have access to their funeral wishes. More than likely in the case of an accident or unexpected loss you won't have everything handy which only places more stress and shock on everyone. Choosing a funeral home you can trust is possibly the most important decision you can make at this time since they can handle all the difficult decisions for you, leaving you and your family to support one another.

We certainly endeavour to provide such services here at LadyAnne Funerals and are just a call away for those of you that need it.

 

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Some of the families we've helped

“I just wanted to send you our sincerest thanks for everything you and your incredible team did for us in making the most perfect day, celebration and farewell of our beautiful Harper.

I have given a lot of thought to your business and the industry and I think it is perhaps the most important business for families to get it right when it comes to planning a funeral which may be sudden or may be a long time in the making. Either way, when one is faced with the unfortunate situation of needing to arrange a funeral, only then do you realise the importance of getting it right.

We experienced first hand the polar opposites the industry offers. It is not just about the cars, the booklets, the music and all the things that make up the day - its about the service, the care and most importantly it’s about the people.

From our very first conversation we could sense your genuine care to our situation and your attention to detail was obvious - this was very different to the previous conversations we had with others we had been referred to. Those other companies wanted to commence meetings with the paperwork side of things upfront which is a very confronting thing to do just days after losing your loved one - and when one of the others that I am referencing couldn’t even refernece our daughters name as our meeting started - we were horrified of how poor the service of care could be.

This is where you and your team shine. After feeling very lost in our search to secure the perfect funeral director to create the perfect day, my wife all of a sudden recalled you standing out the front of your office each morning watering the surrounding gardens to ensure a beautiful front of house. Well, I can assure you, it is not just the front of house that is beautiful - its the entire package that is beautiful.

Your manner, your direction and your expertise is evident from the get go. Nothing is too hard for you or your amazing team. The personal care made us feel like we were the only funeral you were working with at the time, and that’s exactly how it should be.

The finer detail, such as driving past our house so our daughter could go past our house one last time, then leaving the most beautiful flowers on our doorstep, to bumping into us at the Church because you were just doing your own research to make sure the day was seamless. This combined with your recommendations from every aspect as everything was very foreign to us, you were able to guide us to achieve the most beautiful farewell.

The day itself was simply perfect. Not once did we have a concern. The car was shining, your team dressed beautifully, cold water provided for us, directions for our guests, directions for us. Everyone commented on how amazing the day was and how incredibly your team were. Seamless is the only word I can use. It doesn’t stop here.

Your personal care and guidance then allowed us a more intimate farewell the following day (we are so grateful for for this recommendation and possibly would have missed this special day if you had suggested it was the best idea). Again, you and your team made us feel like you had nowhere else to be, and no one else to help. Just us. The setting was beautiful, the celebrant (that you arrange and recommend) is a delightful, your team make this day even more special than the last.

This is something we never want to go through again but there will be so many others, that like us, have no idea where to start to look for the right funeral director for their own special day. All I can say is that I hope that they appoint Lady Anne Funerals. We learnt a lot quickly and it is again a business many do not ever consider needing but without question one of the most important businesses to select the right person and the right team.

I welcome any of your future potential clients to contact me if they wish to discuss our experience with the amazing Lady Anne team. We thank you for giving our beautiful baby the most incredible farewell that was exactly how we imagined it, you just made it happen.”

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Lee Dowdall
Karen has supported my Mum and me through the most difficult week of our lives as we not only planned a funeral, but interred my Dad to his new home. I will be forever grateful to Karen for her ongoing support, guidance, kindness, empathy and friendship over the last week. Karen has now become part of our extended circle of close family friends.
Daughter of the late Sveta Dordevich
Lady Anne Funerals has the compassion, understanding and empathy that many of the larger funeral homes do not possess. My aunts funeral was dignified and classy everything she deserved. I would highly recommend Lady Anne (and have) as they go above and beyond.
Joanne Marks
I am overwhelmed with the feedback on how beautiful it all was from all who attended. You and the other ladies were wonderful, looked so elegant, and made the day so very special for all who loved Paul.
Barbara Sommerville Enright
Karen and her staff treated us with the utmost respect we could not have been in better hands during this difficult time. My mum had organised her funeral with a prepaid funeral plan which she had purchased from Karen almost ten years ago this also made this upsetting time much easier to deal with and she got all the things that she wished for.
Malcolm Ellis
On behalf of my family, I would like to thank Lady Anne Funerals for a beautiful service yesterday for my aunt Dot. All who attended commented on how lovely the service was & the professionalism of all the staff. Thanks again very much for helping making a sad day one of celebration of Dot’s life.
Judith Neville

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