Can You Organise A Funeral Yourself?

Can You Organise A Funeral Yourself?

For many, a trusted funeral director is the first port of call when going through the difficult process of caring for and saying farewell to a loved one. However, more and more, people are choosing do it yourself funeral arrangements over hiring the full services of a funeral director.

The reasons may be monetary, since the cost of funerals has steadily increased tenfold over 50 years, costing families anywhere between $4000 and $14000. However, many individuals also arrange “DIY funerals”, also known as home funerals, because of a desire to personally care for their loved one in death as in life. Writer and editor Annie Connor describes the after-death care practices as meaningful rituals to treasure:

“Someone will wash the body. Someone will dress the body. Someone will close the eyes for the final time. Someone will. At the critical moment of death, someone will perform these tasks for the person whom we have loved and cared for all our lives. Why would we give those meaningful rituals away to a stranger? Why do we give away the best stuff?”  — Annie Connor

The simple answer to the question “can you organise a funeral yourself?” is yes.

 

Arranging a simple and personal do it yourself funeral involves organising:


  • The transportation, care and preparation of the body
  • The disposal of the body, whether through cremation or burial
  • The medical and legal paperwork, including a death certificate and permits for burial
  • The funeral arrangements, including the flowers, food, music and other aspects of the service

 

As it stands today, there is no legal requirement for individuals to seek the services or counsel of a funeral director when arranging a funeral. However, many people still choose to contact a trusted funeral director because they find it helpful in allowing them time to grieve.

Recent laws introduced in 2009 now require funeral directors to provide a “basic funeral” option, that is the lowest cost funeral service package, to all customers. This is the most helpful solution for families seeking to farewell their loved ones with a simple and beautiful service, while also minimising costs and alleviating the stress of organising different arrangements. For the families considering the financial aspect of farewelling their loved ones, a basic funeral or a DIY funeral are both affordable options.

 

Considerations for those choosing do it yourself funeral arrangements

 

For those thinking through their options and wondering if a DIY funeral is the right choice for your loved one, it’s important to keep these considerations in mind. While a funeral director is not a necessity for the process, often the helping hand of a professional is beneficial for navigating the legal and administrative processes and for offering supportive guidance.

Some of the administrative tasks that are made easier by including a funeral director:

  • The nature of the death — If the nature of the death is sudden or unexpected, additional information and paperwork may be required by the coroner’s mortuary.
  • Publishing a death notice — Many newspapers no longer publish death notices submitted by the general public, due to hoaxes in the past.
  • Obtaining a coffin — Many coffin makers do not sell to the public, however there are options available.
  • Organising repatriation — Funeral directors can easily navigate complicated legal processes.  

 

For those seeking to farewell their loved one in a unique and beautiful way, we’ve compiled a funeral planning checklist. Download the free guide below to assist in planning and ensuring you’ve covered all the necessities. If you’re planning the funeral of your loved one and need the support and assistance of an experienced professional, you can contact our team today.


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Lady Anne Funerals is here to support and assist your family through what can be a difficult time, with a ladies touch. 

We are available to discuss a range of services to support your family, including: 

  • Personalised memorial services
  • Cremation and burial services
  • Religious services catering to all faith's
  • No service, no attendance 

Please get in touch - night or day - via the form or you can call us on the number below.

Phone: 1300 74 00 74

904 Victoria Road, West Ryde 2114

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Some of the families we've helped

“I just wanted to send you our sincerest thanks for everything you and your incredible team did for us in making the most perfect day, celebration and farewell of our beautiful Harper.

I have given a lot of thought to your business and the industry and I think it is perhaps the most important business for families to get it right when it comes to planning a funeral which may be sudden or may be a long time in the making. Either way, when one is faced with the unfortunate situation of needing to arrange a funeral, only then do you realise the importance of getting it right.

We experienced first hand the polar opposites the industry offers. It is not just about the cars, the booklets, the music and all the things that make up the day - its about the service, the care and most importantly it’s about the people.

From our very first conversation we could sense your genuine care to our situation and your attention to detail was obvious - this was very different to the previous conversations we had with others we had been referred to. Those other companies wanted to commence meetings with the paperwork side of things upfront which is a very confronting thing to do just days after losing your loved one - and when one of the others that I am referencing couldn’t even refernece our daughters name as our meeting started - we were horrified of how poor the service of care could be.

This is where you and your team shine. After feeling very lost in our search to secure the perfect funeral director to create the perfect day, my wife all of a sudden recalled you standing out the front of your office each morning watering the surrounding gardens to ensure a beautiful front of house. Well, I can assure you, it is not just the front of house that is beautiful - its the entire package that is beautiful.

Your manner, your direction and your expertise is evident from the get go. Nothing is too hard for you or your amazing team. The personal care made us feel like we were the only funeral you were working with at the time, and that’s exactly how it should be.

The finer detail, such as driving past our house so our daughter could go past our house one last time, then leaving the most beautiful flowers on our doorstep, to bumping into us at the Church because you were just doing your own research to make sure the day was seamless. This combined with your recommendations from every aspect as everything was very foreign to us, you were able to guide us to achieve the most beautiful farewell.

The day itself was simply perfect. Not once did we have a concern. The car was shining, your team dressed beautifully, cold water provided for us, directions for our guests, directions for us. Everyone commented on how amazing the day was and how incredibly your team were. Seamless is the only word I can use. It doesn’t stop here.

Your personal care and guidance then allowed us a more intimate farewell the following day (we are so grateful for for this recommendation and possibly would have missed this special day if you had suggested it was the best idea). Again, you and your team made us feel like you had nowhere else to be, and no one else to help. Just us. The setting was beautiful, the celebrant (that you arrange and recommend) is a delightful, your team make this day even more special than the last.

This is something we never want to go through again but there will be so many others, that like us, have no idea where to start to look for the right funeral director for their own special day. All I can say is that I hope that they appoint Lady Anne Funerals. We learnt a lot quickly and it is again a business many do not ever consider needing but without question one of the most important businesses to select the right person and the right team.

I welcome any of your future potential clients to contact me if they wish to discuss our experience with the amazing Lady Anne team. We thank you for giving our beautiful baby the most incredible farewell that was exactly how we imagined it, you just made it happen.”

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Lee Dowdall
Karen has supported my Mum and me through the most difficult week of our lives as we not only planned a funeral, but interred my Dad to his new home. I will be forever grateful to Karen for her ongoing support, guidance, kindness, empathy and friendship over the last week. Karen has now become part of our extended circle of close family friends.
Daughter of the late Sveta Dordevich
Lady Anne Funerals has the compassion, understanding and empathy that many of the larger funeral homes do not possess. My aunts funeral was dignified and classy everything she deserved. I would highly recommend Lady Anne (and have) as they go above and beyond.
Joanne Marks
I am overwhelmed with the feedback on how beautiful it all was from all who attended. You and the other ladies were wonderful, looked so elegant, and made the day so very special for all who loved Paul.
Barbara Sommerville Enright
Karen and her staff treated us with the utmost respect we could not have been in better hands during this difficult time. My mum had organised her funeral with a prepaid funeral plan which she had purchased from Karen almost ten years ago this also made this upsetting time much easier to deal with and she got all the things that she wished for.
Malcolm Ellis
On behalf of my family, I would like to thank Lady Anne Funerals for a beautiful service yesterday for my aunt Dot. All who attended commented on how lovely the service was & the professionalism of all the staff. Thanks again very much for helping making a sad day one of celebration of Dot’s life.
Judith Neville

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