How to choose a personalised funeral poem for your loved one

How to choose a personalised funeral poem for your loved one

A funeral poem is a common part of most funeral services, especially the older generations of Australians. With many having served in the military and living through a dynamic history of Australian playwrights, musicians and poets, there has been a long held cultural personalisation of our memorial services.

 

Choosing a personalised funeral poem for your loved one:


Traditional favourites

There are a few funeral poems that we hear more frequently than others - popular words that resonate because of their power and their sentiment. If you are looking for someone’s words to compliment and personalise your loved one’s funeral service, here are some of the most popular funeral poems from prior services we have hosted:


  • When I think of Death - Maya Angelou
  • Because I could not stop for death - Emily Dickinson
  • Do not stand at my grave and weep - Mary Elizabeth Frye
  • The soldier - Rupert Brooke
  • Do not go gentle into that good night - Dylan Thomas
  • In Flanders Fields - Lieutenant-Colonel John McCrae
  • Sonnet 60 - William Shakespeare
  • We’ll go no more a roving - Lord Byron
  • O Captain! My Captain! - Walt Whitman

You can find the words to these poems here.

 

Inspiration for less traditional funeral poems


If you’re looking for something a bit more unique, and your loved one was musical, a large character, or particularly defined by literature - there are options all around for personalised funeral poems that will suit their service perfectly. A few places to look for wonderful moments you can incorporate into the service are:


Movies they loved

Not many people in the world aren’t a fan of movies - and most movies have a wonderful range of lines that perfectly express a sentiment you feel for your loved one. The early 20th century was full of beautiful and honest moments from a time period that changed the world. There are many movies with beautiful lines and lovely songs across the ages to choose from.


Music they loved

Music is a universal language, that transcends time, culture, language and differing opinions. A wonderful way to include a less traditional poem is through the lyrics of a song. Let the artists speak on your behalf, either by playing the song, speaking their lyrics or including these in the service program. Some classic examples include lyrics from:


  • In My Life or Here Comes the Sun from The Beatles
  • Hallelujah from Leonard Cohen
  • Bridge Over Troubled Water by Simon and Garfunkel  
  • Yellow by Coldplay
  • Rocket Man by Elton John
  • The Prayer - Andrea Bocelli and Celine Dion
  • Wind Beneath My Wings - Bette Midler  

You can also build a funeral playlist for your loved one.


Comedy they loved

Why not include a classic joke in memory of your loved one? Or a line from their favourite comedy movie that always had them in tears. If they were a real belly laugher, or a trickster always looking for a joke to play, why not include that big part of their personality in the service? There is always more room for personalising a funeral to really provide the attendees with a memorable send off.


Plays or musicals they loved

With stories like The Sound of Music, West Side Story, Oliver, The Music Man, My Fair Lady, The Wizard of Oz and Carousel just to name a few, musicals are a big part of our human history. It seems in our experience that those who have loved musicals have had a hard time choosing a favourite, so why not incorporate some of the most memorable songs from the stories your loved one identified with so strongly?


If you are concerned about the chipper tone of some musical numbers, you are always able to let your funeral celebrant know and they will announce the song so as to let the attendees know it is coming. Times when musical numbers have been played have often turned some of the saddest attendees into people who are laughing and celebrating the life of the person being farewelled. As a Funeral Director, this is a really great time in the service.



Write a funeral poem for your loved one.

Can’t find one that’s perfect for your loved one? What about writing something yourself, or having the family wordsmith take an attempt. It’s a heartwarming way to farewell a loved one with a funeral poem that was written just for them.


If you aren’t confident to speak it allowed at the service, you are always able to include it in the program, a touching way to include your memories and thoughts of the deceased.


Organising a funeral or memorial is always a challenging time for a family. We often find the more a person can allow the service to be personalised and created uniquely for their loved one, the more the attendees appreciate and take comfort in the service. If you would like a guide to organising a personalised funeral, you are welcome to take a complimentary copy by clicking on the button below. We're happy to help you with any arrangements you would like to make.

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  • Personalised memorial services
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  • Religious services catering to all faith's
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Some of the families we've helped

“I just wanted to send you our sincerest thanks for everything you and your incredible team did for us in making the most perfect day, celebration and farewell of our beautiful Harper.

I have given a lot of thought to your business and the industry and I think it is perhaps the most important business for families to get it right when it comes to planning a funeral which may be sudden or may be a long time in the making. Either way, when one is faced with the unfortunate situation of needing to arrange a funeral, only then do you realise the importance of getting it right.

We experienced first hand the polar opposites the industry offers. It is not just about the cars, the booklets, the music and all the things that make up the day - its about the service, the care and most importantly it’s about the people.

From our very first conversation we could sense your genuine care to our situation and your attention to detail was obvious - this was very different to the previous conversations we had with others we had been referred to. Those other companies wanted to commence meetings with the paperwork side of things upfront which is a very confronting thing to do just days after losing your loved one - and when one of the others that I am referencing couldn’t even refernece our daughters name as our meeting started - we were horrified of how poor the service of care could be.

This is where you and your team shine. After feeling very lost in our search to secure the perfect funeral director to create the perfect day, my wife all of a sudden recalled you standing out the front of your office each morning watering the surrounding gardens to ensure a beautiful front of house. Well, I can assure you, it is not just the front of house that is beautiful - its the entire package that is beautiful.

Your manner, your direction and your expertise is evident from the get go. Nothing is too hard for you or your amazing team. The personal care made us feel like we were the only funeral you were working with at the time, and that’s exactly how it should be.

The finer detail, such as driving past our house so our daughter could go past our house one last time, then leaving the most beautiful flowers on our doorstep, to bumping into us at the Church because you were just doing your own research to make sure the day was seamless. This combined with your recommendations from every aspect as everything was very foreign to us, you were able to guide us to achieve the most beautiful farewell.

The day itself was simply perfect. Not once did we have a concern. The car was shining, your team dressed beautifully, cold water provided for us, directions for our guests, directions for us. Everyone commented on how amazing the day was and how incredibly your team were. Seamless is the only word I can use. It doesn’t stop here.

Your personal care and guidance then allowed us a more intimate farewell the following day (we are so grateful for for this recommendation and possibly would have missed this special day if you had suggested it was the best idea). Again, you and your team made us feel like you had nowhere else to be, and no one else to help. Just us. The setting was beautiful, the celebrant (that you arrange and recommend) is a delightful, your team make this day even more special than the last.

This is something we never want to go through again but there will be so many others, that like us, have no idea where to start to look for the right funeral director for their own special day. All I can say is that I hope that they appoint Lady Anne Funerals. We learnt a lot quickly and it is again a business many do not ever consider needing but without question one of the most important businesses to select the right person and the right team.

I welcome any of your future potential clients to contact me if they wish to discuss our experience with the amazing Lady Anne team. We thank you for giving our beautiful baby the most incredible farewell that was exactly how we imagined it, you just made it happen.”

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Lee Dowdall
Karen has supported my Mum and me through the most difficult week of our lives as we not only planned a funeral, but interred my Dad to his new home. I will be forever grateful to Karen for her ongoing support, guidance, kindness, empathy and friendship over the last week. Karen has now become part of our extended circle of close family friends.
Daughter of the late Sveta Dordevich
Lady Anne Funerals has the compassion, understanding and empathy that many of the larger funeral homes do not possess. My aunts funeral was dignified and classy everything she deserved. I would highly recommend Lady Anne (and have) as they go above and beyond.
Joanne Marks
I am overwhelmed with the feedback on how beautiful it all was from all who attended. You and the other ladies were wonderful, looked so elegant, and made the day so very special for all who loved Paul.
Barbara Sommerville Enright
Karen and her staff treated us with the utmost respect we could not have been in better hands during this difficult time. My mum had organised her funeral with a prepaid funeral plan which she had purchased from Karen almost ten years ago this also made this upsetting time much easier to deal with and she got all the things that she wished for.
Malcolm Ellis
On behalf of my family, I would like to thank Lady Anne Funerals for a beautiful service yesterday for my aunt Dot. All who attended commented on how lovely the service was & the professionalism of all the staff. Thanks again very much for helping making a sad day one of celebration of Dot’s life.
Judith Neville

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