What families take away from a personalised funeral service

What families take away from a personalised funeral service

It's commonly said that funerals are not only for the dead but also the living; especially the family and close friends of the deceased. Just as every person is different, each funeral may be a one-of-a-kind testament to that person's unique spirit and life.

Amidst the shock and grief, personalising a loved one's funeral can raise tricky logistical issues. The question of how to arrange a funeral – and, by extension, what you should bring and take home from the ceremony – comes down to the type of service being organised.

Will it be a traditional, religious ceremony reflecting the faith of the deceased? Or a personalised funeral service, tailored to their personality and preferences through factors like music, visuals, and humour?

 

What families take home from a funeral service

 

Flowers

Floral displays are a simple yet key way to make sure that the service reflects your loved one’s individuality. The type, colour and arrangement of flowers can all make a visual statement of the kind of person they were.

After the funeral, you might like to take some of the floral arrangements to the burial (if applicable) and leave them on the gravesite. Alternatively, you and other close family members might like to take some of the smaller flower arrangements home as a beautiful reminder of your loved one. They can help add a splash of colour and brightness to your home during this difficult time.

Another alternative is to invite all of the guests to take a flower from the larger arrangements as a memento of the deceased.

 

Memory books

Many funerals include registration books – also called guest books or memory books – which allow all the guests to sign their name and leave a short message of condolence for the family to read later. This can involve sharing memories and thoughts they have of the deceased that they may find it difficult to say firsthand during such a difficult day.

For the family, these messages can be a real source of comfort to reflect upon later, and help when it comes to writing sympathy thank you cards if you choose to do so.

 

Cards and notes

On the other hand, cards and notes of sympathy and condolence are typically brought to visitations or viewings rather than the funeral service itself, but your funeral director should be able to collect any cards and notes for you if they are brought along.

Other guests may bring a bereavement offering such as a photo album, scrapbook or heartfelt letter as a special sentimental gift to the family.

 

Photographs and other tributes

It goes without saying that generally any photographs, videos or musical tributes that you’ve prepared in honour of your loved one will be returned to you: whether that’s a recent photograph of them placed on display, or a CD containing a funeral playlist. These can help capture the spark of personality that made your loved one so special, and help those attending to focus on the happier memories and accomplishments of their life rather than the tragedy of their passing.

 

Personal effects

In many cases, those who have arranged a personalised funeral ceremony, may use the deceased’s treasured possessions, or symbols of their passions or hobbies, to help adorn the funeral space. For instance, one of the most memorable services I’ve been involved in was an informal affair at a surf lifesaving club, complete with surfboards and other surfing memorabilia – a touching reflection of the life that was.

In some cases, small tributes to the deceased may be placed atop the coffin for the service or even accompany them to the grave itself – a treasured item of clothing, piece of memorabilia, framed photograph or even, in some cases, food or drink.

 

Religious components

For those with strong religious beliefs, it’s important to incorporate religious elements into the service. For example, Catholic services may feature mass cards as well as memorial booklets outlining the service of the funeral mass for each guest to follow throughout and take home afterwards. It all depends on the religious and cultural practices.

 

Most importantly of all, funerals offer a sense of closure and support to the deceased’s close family and friends, helping them to cope during this difficult time. They play the important psychological roles of helping us to remember the person and to say goodbye.

Every person and family is different, and every funeral should be too. During these difficult times of grief and mourning, the help and support of an experienced professional can make all the difference in planning a special funeral service.

 

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Lady Anne Funerals is here to support and assist your family through what can be a difficult time, with a ladies touch. 

We are available to discuss a range of services to support your family, including: 

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Some of the families we've helped

“I just wanted to send you our sincerest thanks for everything you and your incredible team did for us in making the most perfect day, celebration and farewell of our beautiful Harper.

I have given a lot of thought to your business and the industry and I think it is perhaps the most important business for families to get it right when it comes to planning a funeral which may be sudden or may be a long time in the making. Either way, when one is faced with the unfortunate situation of needing to arrange a funeral, only then do you realise the importance of getting it right.

We experienced first hand the polar opposites the industry offers. It is not just about the cars, the booklets, the music and all the things that make up the day - its about the service, the care and most importantly it’s about the people.

From our very first conversation we could sense your genuine care to our situation and your attention to detail was obvious - this was very different to the previous conversations we had with others we had been referred to. Those other companies wanted to commence meetings with the paperwork side of things upfront which is a very confronting thing to do just days after losing your loved one - and when one of the others that I am referencing couldn’t even refernece our daughters name as our meeting started - we were horrified of how poor the service of care could be.

This is where you and your team shine. After feeling very lost in our search to secure the perfect funeral director to create the perfect day, my wife all of a sudden recalled you standing out the front of your office each morning watering the surrounding gardens to ensure a beautiful front of house. Well, I can assure you, it is not just the front of house that is beautiful - its the entire package that is beautiful.

Your manner, your direction and your expertise is evident from the get go. Nothing is too hard for you or your amazing team. The personal care made us feel like we were the only funeral you were working with at the time, and that’s exactly how it should be.

The finer detail, such as driving past our house so our daughter could go past our house one last time, then leaving the most beautiful flowers on our doorstep, to bumping into us at the Church because you were just doing your own research to make sure the day was seamless. This combined with your recommendations from every aspect as everything was very foreign to us, you were able to guide us to achieve the most beautiful farewell.

The day itself was simply perfect. Not once did we have a concern. The car was shining, your team dressed beautifully, cold water provided for us, directions for our guests, directions for us. Everyone commented on how amazing the day was and how incredibly your team were. Seamless is the only word I can use. It doesn’t stop here.

Your personal care and guidance then allowed us a more intimate farewell the following day (we are so grateful for for this recommendation and possibly would have missed this special day if you had suggested it was the best idea). Again, you and your team made us feel like you had nowhere else to be, and no one else to help. Just us. The setting was beautiful, the celebrant (that you arrange and recommend) is a delightful, your team make this day even more special than the last.

This is something we never want to go through again but there will be so many others, that like us, have no idea where to start to look for the right funeral director for their own special day. All I can say is that I hope that they appoint Lady Anne Funerals. We learnt a lot quickly and it is again a business many do not ever consider needing but without question one of the most important businesses to select the right person and the right team.

I welcome any of your future potential clients to contact me if they wish to discuss our experience with the amazing Lady Anne team. We thank you for giving our beautiful baby the most incredible farewell that was exactly how we imagined it, you just made it happen.”

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Lee Dowdall
Karen has supported my Mum and me through the most difficult week of our lives as we not only planned a funeral, but interred my Dad to his new home. I will be forever grateful to Karen for her ongoing support, guidance, kindness, empathy and friendship over the last week. Karen has now become part of our extended circle of close family friends.
Daughter of the late Sveta Dordevich
Lady Anne Funerals has the compassion, understanding and empathy that many of the larger funeral homes do not possess. My aunts funeral was dignified and classy everything she deserved. I would highly recommend Lady Anne (and have) as they go above and beyond.
Joanne Marks
I am overwhelmed with the feedback on how beautiful it all was from all who attended. You and the other ladies were wonderful, looked so elegant, and made the day so very special for all who loved Paul.
Barbara Sommerville Enright
Karen and her staff treated us with the utmost respect we could not have been in better hands during this difficult time. My mum had organised her funeral with a prepaid funeral plan which she had purchased from Karen almost ten years ago this also made this upsetting time much easier to deal with and she got all the things that she wished for.
Malcolm Ellis
On behalf of my family, I would like to thank Lady Anne Funerals for a beautiful service yesterday for my aunt Dot. All who attended commented on how lovely the service was & the professionalism of all the staff. Thanks again very much for helping making a sad day one of celebration of Dot’s life.
Judith Neville

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