7 Ways To Personalise A Funeral Service

7 Ways To Personalise A Funeral Service

When someone passes we often reflect on the wonderful traits that made them the person they are. These are the things we want family, friends and the community to have a lasting memory of when it comes to a funeral service. 

Here are 7 ways to personalise a funeral service for your loved one:

1. Was your loved one religious?

If your loved one and family practice a particular religion, the service can follow the requirements or religious customs. Your funeral director can tailor a service in a particular way to incorporate religious elements requested by the family of the deceased.

Particular religious services can vary based on scripture readings, psalms, hymns, blessings, vigils, rites, sermons, ceremonies, reciting verses and chanting.

Speak to your funeral director about what religious elements you would like to include in the service.


2. Music and Visuals

A really great way to personalise a funeral service is through the use of music and visuals. If your loved one had a favourite song/s you can request for it to be used in the service, when the coffin and attendees are leaving or even at the wake.

If wanting to use music but struggling to decide on an appropriate song, you can find some inspiration here.

As with music, videos and photographs can be used within the funeral service. It’s a really simple and expressive way to make use of the great photos and videos you have, to give a lasting memory of your loved one. This can be done through slideshow or video montage (which can also be accompanied with music). Speak to your funeral director about organising a visual presentation.


3. Floral Display

Different floral displays and arrangements can be used as a way to personalise a funeral service. At the family’s request, funeral homes can arrange for the deceased’s favourite flowers to be displayed based on shape or colour.

Perhaps a close family member or friend can participate in the funeral by placing flowers on the coffin or display as a tribute.


4. Was your loved one a member of a certain club or association?

If your loved one was a member of a certain club or association, you can arrange for the members to attend or even speak at the service to show support for the deceased.

This can be a really good way of letting those who knew your loved one, to recall the passion, interests and fond memories they had.


5. Ex-service person

If the deceased was an ex-service person, the funeral can be arranged so that it is incorporated into the service. This can be done either through the placement of a flag over the coffin, arrangements of Poppy flowers, a guard of honour or even playing ‘The Last Post’ within the service.


6. Green Funerals service

Becoming increasingly popular, is the specification of a ‘Green Funeral’. If your loved one was an environmentalist and has requested, there are ways in which you can organise an eco- friendly funeral service.

Use recycled paper for the programs, flowers sourced from organic and local growers, caskets and coffins made from simple wood and direct donations can be made to an eco-charity.


7. Incorporate humour and fondness into the eulogy

One of the best ways to reflect on someones life is to focus on the positive and happy times they shared with family and friends. If the deceased was known for their bubbly personality, perhaps light humour and fondness can be used in the eulogy as a tribute. If you're having trouble writing a eulogy you can learn how to write one here.

Hopefully these tips will help and provide some inspiration to those looking to personalise a funeral service for a loved individual. It can be a lovely gesture to the deceased to tailor their funeral service to reflect their life.


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“I just wanted to send you our sincerest thanks for everything you and your incredible team did for us in making the most perfect day, celebration and farewell of our beautiful Harper.

I have given a lot of thought to your business and the industry and I think it is perhaps the most important business for families to get it right when it comes to planning a funeral which may be sudden or may be a long time in the making. Either way, when one is faced with the unfortunate situation of needing to arrange a funeral, only then do you realise the importance of getting it right.

We experienced first hand the polar opposites the industry offers. It is not just about the cars, the booklets, the music and all the things that make up the day - its about the service, the care and most importantly it’s about the people.

From our very first conversation we could sense your genuine care to our situation and your attention to detail was obvious - this was very different to the previous conversations we had with others we had been referred to. Those other companies wanted to commence meetings with the paperwork side of things upfront which is a very confronting thing to do just days after losing your loved one - and when one of the others that I am referencing couldn’t even refernece our daughters name as our meeting started - we were horrified of how poor the service of care could be.

This is where you and your team shine. After feeling very lost in our search to secure the perfect funeral director to create the perfect day, my wife all of a sudden recalled you standing out the front of your office each morning watering the surrounding gardens to ensure a beautiful front of house. Well, I can assure you, it is not just the front of house that is beautiful - its the entire package that is beautiful.

Your manner, your direction and your expertise is evident from the get go. Nothing is too hard for you or your amazing team. The personal care made us feel like we were the only funeral you were working with at the time, and that’s exactly how it should be.

The finer detail, such as driving past our house so our daughter could go past our house one last time, then leaving the most beautiful flowers on our doorstep, to bumping into us at the Church because you were just doing your own research to make sure the day was seamless. This combined with your recommendations from every aspect as everything was very foreign to us, you were able to guide us to achieve the most beautiful farewell.

The day itself was simply perfect. Not once did we have a concern. The car was shining, your team dressed beautifully, cold water provided for us, directions for our guests, directions for us. Everyone commented on how amazing the day was and how incredibly your team were. Seamless is the only word I can use. It doesn’t stop here.

Your personal care and guidance then allowed us a more intimate farewell the following day (we are so grateful for for this recommendation and possibly would have missed this special day if you had suggested it was the best idea). Again, you and your team made us feel like you had nowhere else to be, and no one else to help. Just us. The setting was beautiful, the celebrant (that you arrange and recommend) is a delightful, your team make this day even more special than the last.

This is something we never want to go through again but there will be so many others, that like us, have no idea where to start to look for the right funeral director for their own special day. All I can say is that I hope that they appoint Lady Anne Funerals. We learnt a lot quickly and it is again a business many do not ever consider needing but without question one of the most important businesses to select the right person and the right team.

I welcome any of your future potential clients to contact me if they wish to discuss our experience with the amazing Lady Anne team. We thank you for giving our beautiful baby the most incredible farewell that was exactly how we imagined it, you just made it happen.”

Lee Dowdall

“We wish to thank you for having helped us put together a beautiful farewell for our mother, one which she would have been delighted with.

It was a difficult day and it would have been worse without your synchronised, seamless and consistent presence as well as attention to detail.

We value your candour as the people you are and the very sensitive manner in which you conducted the service.

Thanking you from the bottom of our hearts,

The Pastore Family
Karen has supported my Mum and me through the most difficult week of our lives as we not only planned a funeral, but interred my Dad to his new home. I will be forever grateful to Karen for her ongoing support, guidance, kindness, empathy and friendship over the last week. Karen has now become part of our extended circle of close family friends.
Daughter of the late Sveta Dordevich
Lady Anne Funerals has the compassion, understanding and empathy that many of the larger funeral homes do not possess. My aunts funeral was dignified and classy everything she deserved. I would highly recommend Lady Anne (and have) as they go above and beyond.
Joanne Marks
I am overwhelmed with the feedback on how beautiful it all was from all who attended. You and the other ladies were wonderful, looked so elegant, and made the day so very special for all who loved Paul.
Barbara Sommerville Enright
Karen and her staff treated us with the utmost respect we could not have been in better hands during this difficult time. My mum had organised her funeral with a prepaid funeral plan which she had purchased from Karen almost ten years ago this also made this upsetting time much easier to deal with and she got all the things that she wished for.
Malcolm Ellis
On behalf of my family, I would like to thank Lady Anne Funerals for a beautiful service yesterday for my aunt Dot. All who attended commented on how lovely the service was & the professionalism of all the staff. Thanks again very much for helping making a sad day one of celebration of Dot’s life.
Judith Neville

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