Why You Should Organise Your Funeral Ahead Of Time (With Your Partner)

Why You Should Organise Your Funeral Ahead Of Time (With Your Partner)

A wise person recently told me why they had decided to organise a funeral for themselves before they had passed away - right down to the most finite detail. This person was in their mid 50’s and in perfect health, so what was their reason for organising their own funeral?

They said to me this, and I will always remember it:

“When I was younger, I met a girl named Mary. I thought she was amazing, so I asked her if she wanted to date me. She agreed! We had made our first decision together. A few years later, things were going well and I asked Mary to marry me - she said yes! We had made another decision together. Then followed buying our first house, the birth of our first child, the decision to move interstate and buy our first car together. We decided together when Mary wanted to retire that it was the right choice for us. Why then, when I have spent my whole life making decisions WITH Mary, would I leave her to make all the decisions around my funeral? She will be in a difficult place, and this is something we can do together.”

This just makes so much sense. In my experience as a Lady Anne Funeral Director, these are the three biggest reasons to organise your own funeral below:

 

Why to organise your funeral ahead of time

 

Make it easier on your partner and family

If you organise a funeral before you pass away, this can relieve the burden on your partner or family of making decisions in a difficult time. Considering what you would like to have can take pressure off the grieving process for those closest to you. The decision to have a burial or cremation service for your partner needs to made quickly, which can be overwhelming. Deciding together ahead of time can make organising a funeral so much easier on the remaining partner.

 

Plan the exact service you want

For some people, it is really important to have a specific flower, song, or location chosen to have at their ceremony. You might have a special personal memory that impacts where you want your ashes to be scattered, a more relaxed location you want to have your cremation memorial at, maybe even a catered event in lieu of a chapel service.

There are so many options available to you and your partner to decide between, that it’s easy to get overwhelmed when the decision is so final. Think through what’s important to you, and what isn’t and discuss to ensure you have an idea of what it is you want. Don’t forget to ask your partner and make sure you know what they want to - make the decision together.

 

Decide how to pay for the funeral

The average cost of a funeral is between $4000 and $14000. Will your partner have considered this cost if you were to pass in an instant? While you are thinking about what you want, why not get a quote for your wishes and look into your financial options to cover the cost? Taking the financial aspect out of funeral planning by being proactive ahead of time can make the process far less stressful for your partner.

There are options now for funeral insurance, a self opened savings account (with a capped limit) and the option of setting up a prepaid funeral. Each scenario has it’s own benefits depending on the person enquiring and their personal situation. At Lady Anne Funerals, our funeral directors are equipped to cost and organise a prepaid funeral for you which you are able to pay for in advance of your passing. The main benefit of a prepaid funeral is knowing you are paying today’s prices for a funeral that might not happen for 40 years as the cost is fixed at the agreed value and then paid off over a period of 3 years. You are also able to dictate all personal requirements, and agree to the value, so your family won’t be left bearing the potential cost of an elaborate service you don’t even want.

 

It’s important to consider your personal preferences when organising your own funeral. We’ve developed a questionnaire outlining questions that your funeral provider will ask your partner or family when you pass away, and that you might like to discuss. Take the quiz by clicking the link below or call one of the lady funeral directors at Lady Anne Funerals to have a chat about a prepaid funeral that suits you.



We're here to help

Lady Anne Funerals is here to support and assist your family through what can be a difficult time, with a ladies touch. 

We are available to discuss a range of services to support your family, including: 

  • Personalised memorial services
  • Cremation and burial services
  • Religious services catering to all faith's
  • No service, no attendance 

Please get in touch - night or day - via the form or you can call us on the number below.

Phone: 1300 74 00 74

904 Victoria Road, West Ryde 2114

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Some of the families we've helped

“I just wanted to send you our sincerest thanks for everything you and your incredible team did for us in making the most perfect day, celebration and farewell of our beautiful Harper.

I have given a lot of thought to your business and the industry and I think it is perhaps the most important business for families to get it right when it comes to planning a funeral which may be sudden or may be a long time in the making. Either way, when one is faced with the unfortunate situation of needing to arrange a funeral, only then do you realise the importance of getting it right.

We experienced first hand the polar opposites the industry offers. It is not just about the cars, the booklets, the music and all the things that make up the day - its about the service, the care and most importantly it’s about the people.

From our very first conversation we could sense your genuine care to our situation and your attention to detail was obvious - this was very different to the previous conversations we had with others we had been referred to. Those other companies wanted to commence meetings with the paperwork side of things upfront which is a very confronting thing to do just days after losing your loved one - and when one of the others that I am referencing couldn’t even refernece our daughters name as our meeting started - we were horrified of how poor the service of care could be.

This is where you and your team shine. After feeling very lost in our search to secure the perfect funeral director to create the perfect day, my wife all of a sudden recalled you standing out the front of your office each morning watering the surrounding gardens to ensure a beautiful front of house. Well, I can assure you, it is not just the front of house that is beautiful - its the entire package that is beautiful.

Your manner, your direction and your expertise is evident from the get go. Nothing is too hard for you or your amazing team. The personal care made us feel like we were the only funeral you were working with at the time, and that’s exactly how it should be.

The finer detail, such as driving past our house so our daughter could go past our house one last time, then leaving the most beautiful flowers on our doorstep, to bumping into us at the Church because you were just doing your own research to make sure the day was seamless. This combined with your recommendations from every aspect as everything was very foreign to us, you were able to guide us to achieve the most beautiful farewell.

The day itself was simply perfect. Not once did we have a concern. The car was shining, your team dressed beautifully, cold water provided for us, directions for our guests, directions for us. Everyone commented on how amazing the day was and how incredibly your team were. Seamless is the only word I can use. It doesn’t stop here.

Your personal care and guidance then allowed us a more intimate farewell the following day (we are so grateful for for this recommendation and possibly would have missed this special day if you had suggested it was the best idea). Again, you and your team made us feel like you had nowhere else to be, and no one else to help. Just us. The setting was beautiful, the celebrant (that you arrange and recommend) is a delightful, your team make this day even more special than the last.

This is something we never want to go through again but there will be so many others, that like us, have no idea where to start to look for the right funeral director for their own special day. All I can say is that I hope that they appoint Lady Anne Funerals. We learnt a lot quickly and it is again a business many do not ever consider needing but without question one of the most important businesses to select the right person and the right team.

I welcome any of your future potential clients to contact me if they wish to discuss our experience with the amazing Lady Anne team. We thank you for giving our beautiful baby the most incredible farewell that was exactly how we imagined it, you just made it happen.”

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Lee Dowdall
Karen has supported my Mum and me through the most difficult week of our lives as we not only planned a funeral, but interred my Dad to his new home. I will be forever grateful to Karen for her ongoing support, guidance, kindness, empathy and friendship over the last week. Karen has now become part of our extended circle of close family friends.
Daughter of the late Sveta Dordevich
Lady Anne Funerals has the compassion, understanding and empathy that many of the larger funeral homes do not possess. My aunts funeral was dignified and classy everything she deserved. I would highly recommend Lady Anne (and have) as they go above and beyond.
Joanne Marks
I am overwhelmed with the feedback on how beautiful it all was from all who attended. You and the other ladies were wonderful, looked so elegant, and made the day so very special for all who loved Paul.
Barbara Sommerville Enright
Karen and her staff treated us with the utmost respect we could not have been in better hands during this difficult time. My mum had organised her funeral with a prepaid funeral plan which she had purchased from Karen almost ten years ago this also made this upsetting time much easier to deal with and she got all the things that she wished for.
Malcolm Ellis
On behalf of my family, I would like to thank Lady Anne Funerals for a beautiful service yesterday for my aunt Dot. All who attended commented on how lovely the service was & the professionalism of all the staff. Thanks again very much for helping making a sad day one of celebration of Dot’s life.
Judith Neville

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