Christmas is meant to be a time filled with Joy and Happiness, however it can also be an extremely testing and challenging time for those who have lost a loved one.
It can be hard for families and friends to celebrate and immerse themselves in Christmas celebrations when experiencing a deep loss. Provided are some small pieces of advice that may help those grieving the loss of a loved one through the holiday period.
“Christmas is a necessity. There has to be at least one day of the year to remind us that we're here for something else besides ourselves.”
― Eric Sevareid
Remember your loved one and try to focus on all the wonderful memories you have of them. Whether it is by playing their favourite movie, listening to their favourite song or even decorating using a colour that reminds you of them. Although this may be a challenging thing to do, you will be able to take comfort in all the positive times you shared.
A great way to compile precious memories of your loved one is through a scrapbook. Learn how to make one:
Christmas is a wonderful time of year and you should allow yourself to be joyful and celebrate. Consider your usual Christmas traditions and decide whether they will perhaps be helpful towards your healing process or harmful. Remember, new traditions can always be made so don’t feel the need to carry out one that may be too upsetting.
However, do not put added pressure onto yourself to deliver a spectacular Christmas. Your Christmas can be exactly what you want it to be, you do not have to live up to previous expectations.
Eat great food
Food can be a remedy for many problems and the best food is made at Christmas Time. So enjoy! Here are some great Christmas Food ideas
Be in good company
Surround yourself with those that care for you and understand your loss. Whether that may be family, friends or even pets.
Acknowledge and accept that this is a time of heightened emotion and you may feel lonely, depressed, sad or perhaps even angry. By expressing emotion you will allow yourself to grieve.
Whether it may be financially or emotionally, accept help from others. Reach out to friends, relatives, co-workers, neighbours, churches or support groups - they will be willing to help and console.
Our previous article can also help highlight the importance of reaching out for help when grieving.
Christmas is a time of giving, and there are always people in need. If you are struggling to come to terms with your loss you may find solace through helping others. Either through donating, volunteering or even just listening you will be able to help someone else and feel better about yourself.