Planning A Cremation Memorial

Planning A Cremation Memorial

Planning a cremation memorial is much the same as planning a traditional funeral with a casket, though the departed is present in a cremation urn instead of in the flesh. Sometimes your loved one isn’t there at all, as their remains have already been scattered in their favourite place. In other cases, they will be there because the funeral will be held prior to the cremation process.

If your loved one has decided to be cremated in their will but hasn’t left further details as to how to be remembered, what do you do? How do you choose the best way to memorialise the departed?

The all female staff at Lady Anne Funerals have compiled the list of questions below to assist you in planning a cremation service for your loved one — and celebrating their life in the best way possible.


Step 1 - Who is the service for?

When planning a cremation memorial, it’s important to consider whether the service is being held as it was important to the deceased, or whether it is for the family and friends who remain. Consider old Uncle Frank for instance; you might have held a matter of fact funeral service out of respect to him, and his wife Aunt Maggie would want no fuss, but the attendees would expect a service portraying the warmth she put on everyone’s lives.

Include appropriate songs, readings, verses or poems and photos that will suit the attendees who are left to mourn their loss. Thinking these things through can help to plan when you have been left with limited guidance from the departed.


Step 2 - When to be cremated?

There are four options as to when the body of your loved one is to be cremated:

  1. After a funeral service. Often the body is in the casket and present at the funeral and then a curtain is closed or the casket is removed from the service and sent to the crematorium.
  2. Before the memorial service and present for the ceremony in a special cremation urn
  3. Before the memorial service and not present due to already resting.
  4. Attend the cremation itself. This service is only available at some crematories and only to family members.

Step 3 - How will the ceremony occur?

There are varying priorities for families when it comes to planning a cremation memorial. Often the audience of mourners, the personality of the deceased and the budget for the service come into play when considering which style of memorialisation is the best fit.

You might decide to have a full scale traditional funeral, in which the body is present and the ceremony is more formal. Because it’s seen as a more major ‘event’, a funeral can help provide closure for family members and loved ones. The cost of this style of service is typically higher because it incorporates the cost of both a funeral service and cremation.

It’s also common to host a more casual memorial, with attendees bringing their favourite photos, songs, memories and stories in lieu of flowers. These services can be held with the departed’s remains present in a cremation urn, or after scattering the ashes in a special location.

Alternatively, your family might prefer the more private approach; having the body cremated, collecting the remains and simply saying a few words in a special place to scatter the ashes, or resting them in a memorial garden or mausoleum.


Step 4 - Where will the body be housed?

After the cremation process has occurred and the remains are collected, you are faced with the decision of where to house the remains of your loved one. Some people choose to have the ashes placed in a cremation urn and kept in their home, while others will have a special place the ashes will be scattered as a fond place of memorial. Some families have pre organised places in mausoleums or memorial gardens to be kept together in burial. There are even opportunities to have your loved ones remains creatively utilised in a special piece of art, immortalised in a diamond or placed in an artificial reef.


Remember that there are no right or wrong ways to memorialise your loved one. The lady funeral directors at Lady Anne Funerals can help to plan your memorial ceremony in line with your wishes and cultural preferences is our great honour. For more information regarding any style of cremation service, help choosing a cremation urn, or any other questions you may have regarding burial or cremation services, contact our ladies on 1300 74 00 74.


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  • Personalised memorial services
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“I just wanted to send you our sincerest thanks for everything you and your incredible team did for us in making the most perfect day, celebration and farewell of our beautiful Harper.

I have given a lot of thought to your business and the industry and I think it is perhaps the most important business for families to get it right when it comes to planning a funeral which may be sudden or may be a long time in the making. Either way, when one is faced with the unfortunate situation of needing to arrange a funeral, only then do you realise the importance of getting it right.

We experienced first hand the polar opposites the industry offers. It is not just about the cars, the booklets, the music and all the things that make up the day - its about the service, the care and most importantly it’s about the people.

From our very first conversation we could sense your genuine care to our situation and your attention to detail was obvious - this was very different to the previous conversations we had with others we had been referred to. Those other companies wanted to commence meetings with the paperwork side of things upfront which is a very confronting thing to do just days after losing your loved one - and when one of the others that I am referencing couldn’t even refernece our daughters name as our meeting started - we were horrified of how poor the service of care could be.

This is where you and your team shine. After feeling very lost in our search to secure the perfect funeral director to create the perfect day, my wife all of a sudden recalled you standing out the front of your office each morning watering the surrounding gardens to ensure a beautiful front of house. Well, I can assure you, it is not just the front of house that is beautiful - its the entire package that is beautiful.

Your manner, your direction and your expertise is evident from the get go. Nothing is too hard for you or your amazing team. The personal care made us feel like we were the only funeral you were working with at the time, and that’s exactly how it should be.

The finer detail, such as driving past our house so our daughter could go past our house one last time, then leaving the most beautiful flowers on our doorstep, to bumping into us at the Church because you were just doing your own research to make sure the day was seamless. This combined with your recommendations from every aspect as everything was very foreign to us, you were able to guide us to achieve the most beautiful farewell.

The day itself was simply perfect. Not once did we have a concern. The car was shining, your team dressed beautifully, cold water provided for us, directions for our guests, directions for us. Everyone commented on how amazing the day was and how incredibly your team were. Seamless is the only word I can use. It doesn’t stop here.

Your personal care and guidance then allowed us a more intimate farewell the following day (we are so grateful for for this recommendation and possibly would have missed this special day if you had suggested it was the best idea). Again, you and your team made us feel like you had nowhere else to be, and no one else to help. Just us. The setting was beautiful, the celebrant (that you arrange and recommend) is a delightful, your team make this day even more special than the last.

This is something we never want to go through again but there will be so many others, that like us, have no idea where to start to look for the right funeral director for their own special day. All I can say is that I hope that they appoint Lady Anne Funerals. We learnt a lot quickly and it is again a business many do not ever consider needing but without question one of the most important businesses to select the right person and the right team.

I welcome any of your future potential clients to contact me if they wish to discuss our experience with the amazing Lady Anne team. We thank you for giving our beautiful baby the most incredible farewell that was exactly how we imagined it, you just made it happen.”

Lee Dowdall

“We wish to thank you for having helped us put together a beautiful farewell for our mother, one which she would have been delighted with.

It was a difficult day and it would have been worse without your synchronised, seamless and consistent presence as well as attention to detail.

We value your candour as the people you are and the very sensitive manner in which you conducted the service.

Thanking you from the bottom of our hearts,

The Pastore Family
Karen has supported my Mum and me through the most difficult week of our lives as we not only planned a funeral, but interred my Dad to his new home. I will be forever grateful to Karen for her ongoing support, guidance, kindness, empathy and friendship over the last week. Karen has now become part of our extended circle of close family friends.
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Joanne Marks
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Malcolm Ellis
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Judith Neville

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